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TIPS TO MEN FROM WOMEN
ON THE FIRST APPROACH
O.K.,
you’ve spotted her across the crowded room. In your
mind, you’re confident that she’s the “one”.
You slowly make your way to her. Your heart is pounding.
Your palms are sweating. You reach her…. and then…
You open your mouth. You blow it!
No second chances, bub.
So what do you
say? How do you act? The following 10 tips are recommended
by women on how the man should first approach her. You’d
be wise to read these. Everyone knows… the woman
is always right!
Tip #1: Don’t
request a date immediately. Wait until a conversation first
occurs before asking her out.
For God’s sake,
at least find out her name first! If she doesn’t know
who in the world you are… no matter how nice, charming or
goodlooking you may be, chances are VERY slim that she’s
going to want to go out with a complete stranger.
Tip #2: Don’t
pounce upon her the minute that she walks into the place.
A woman wants to become
accustomed to her new surroundings, have a drink, talk to friends
or relax before being rushed by a man who descends on her like
a vulture to prey. Let her start enjoying herself before
making your first move.
Tip #3: Don’t
overdo it with flattery or flowery compliments.
“Your eyes light
up the room like moonlight on still waters...
Pleeeeease! Even
if you’re sincere when throwing her a line like that. she’s
going to have a tough time swallowing it. Compliments are
all well and good, but don’t overdo it. When you DO
say something nice, go for a nice casual comment like “You
have a great smile” as opposed to “Nice rack
ya got there!”.
Tip #4: If buying
her a drink, don’t expect a miracle.
She may say “thank
you”, but even that’s no guarantee. Better to
send her a drink anonymously. This conjures up an element
of mystery or intrigue that can inspire her to “investigate”
the sender and personally thank you. This can lead to a
conversation which can lead to… whatever.
Tip #5: When approaching
a group of women, don’t hit on one after another.
Use your head.
Every woman wants to feel special. If she sees you going
from woman to woman like Musical Chairs, that “special”
factor is tossed right out the window.
Tip #6: Don’t
be desperate, overanxious or pushy. Respect her space and
don’t get grabby or physical.
So many men ignore this
rule. There’s a big difference between being pleasantly
persistant and being an absolute nuisance. Keep your encounter
with her conversational and friendly. Don’t ruin it
by putting your arm around her. You may think you’re
suave and debonair. Chances are, she thinks you’re
an asshole.
Tip #7: Ask for
her phone number ONLY if you plan on using it.
If you’re lucky
enough to actually get her phone number on a napkin, your job
is only half complete. Dial her up. She wouldn’t give
you her number if she didn’t want you to call her.
Tip #8: Ask her
out at least two or three days in advance.
Don’t try to rush
the date. This wreaks of desperation. Play it cool,
boy. Good things come to those who wait.
Tip #9: Don’t
ask her to go away with you on a vacation, to a wedding or an
office function.
You’ve just met
her! She barely knows you, so a trip to Tahiti or your
cousin’s barmitzvah are not prime choices for a first date.
Tip #10: Spend
the money on breath mints.
Otherwise, you’ll
never get past “hello”. |
