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END PREMATURE EJACULATION
First of all, it should be noted that one man in 3 ejaculates
quicker than he wants to.Sex therapists prefer to use the term
“Involuntary Ejaculation” since the key to controlling
it revolves around gaining voluntary control.Premature Ejaculation
ranks as one of the top male sex problems.
The following are some tips and exercises that will assist
you in learning to control this problem:
For starters, you might drink a glass of wine before having sex.
Alcohol may relax you just enough to delay your ejaculation.
Or there's the old tried and true practice of masturbating a
few hours before making love. If you "take care of
your business" early (Watch “There’s Something
About Mary” again), it will take you longer to ejaculate
when the time comes to do it with your partner. The best method
for reducing the chances of premature ejaculation is one that
we mentioned in the previous section- Give Your PC Muscles
a Squeeze. Review our discussion of Kegel (PC) Muscles
if you've forgotten where these muscles are located. Strong
PC muscles operate like a good set of brakes in your car-
by contracting the muscles, you can control your arousal the
same way you use your brakes to control speed. In the broadest
terms of how to apply this muscle when making love, you prolong
orgasms by a simulation of "stopping your urination in midstream".
Learn the powers of these muscles and how to use them.
They will work wonders in the bedroom!
Masters and Johnson developed
a method called The Squeeze Technique to help with premature
ejaculation.It’s fairly simple.When you feel yourself getting
close to orgasm, withdraw your penis from the vagina.Then place
the first 2 fingers of either hand on the underside of the penis,
place your thumb on the top, and then squeeze. You can do this
yourself, or you can have your partner squeeze the head of the
penis between her thumb and fingers. Since your penis is erect,
it won’t really hurt if she gives it an intense squeeze.
An old Taoist method for delaying ejaculation is performed by
Pressing The Million Dollar Point. This Point is located
on your perineum just in front of the anus.You will feel a slight
indentation when you push at the right spot.When you approach
ejaculation, take your finger and push it up into the Million
Dollar Point, all the way to the first joint of your finger.This
will help delay ejaculation by interrupting the ejaculatory reflex.This
technique is great because you can use it without having to withdraw
your penis from the vagina.
Another simple method
is called Scrotal Tugging.As the name implies, you simply
pull your testicles away from your body to delay ejaculation.This
is accomplished by circling the top of your scrotal sac with
your thumb and forefinger, then pulling down firmly.
You can learn to tolerate
long periods of sexual pleasure without ejaculating once you
learn to recognize the feelings that precede your orgasm. There
is an exercise you can try called The "One to Ten"
Approach. Imagine that the scale of pleasure runs from
1 to 10: 1 you are just starting to feel aroused; 10 you have
an orgasm and ejaculate. Therefore 9, the point just before your
orgasm, is your “Point Of No Return. Try masturbating.
When you reach your magic point 8, stop and let the urge to ejaculate
subside. Then start masturbating again. Do this a few times.
Masturbate, stop, masturbate. At the end of 15 minutes you can
ejaculate (if you wish). Repeat this technique until you are
able to enjoy your arousal without ejaculating for 15 minutes.
Finally, the oldest, simplest & best method for learning
ejaculatory control is called the Locking Method (or “Stop-Start”
Method). When having sex, if you feel yourself becoming
too excited... simply withdraw your penis from the vagina and
pull back so that only the head of your penis remains inside
her. Then just remain motionless for 15 - 30 seconds.
Wait for the urge to subside, then back to where you left off. |
